11 comments on “Questioning Happiness

  1. This is so interesting — how happiness is totally in our own hands!

    Every time I’m happy, I go overboard with it and am like supremely aware of blessed I am in so many ways, etc. Then I’ll get all depressed over something trivial (car troubles, True Blood plot twists) and I question everything.

    Great post!

    • Thanks Nick- though sometime I hope to write something funny. Hoping to get inspiration from my current read- A History of the Humble Little Condom. 🙂

      Eventually, I believe happiness has to be internal. I have to be at peace with myself without letting external factors etc. affect me. That is the form of possibly lasting happiness. It is difficult to come by and I have no idea how I managed this feat.

  2. First off, it’s really cool that you’re in such a great place. If it works, don’t change anything. Don’t force the happiness but don’t change anything just because you feel you should or others tell you to. Im a little envious as i would love to be a hermit 95% of the time. As a whole, people irritate me so I like to be alone. Anyway, as cliche as it sounds, just go with the flow. If the “project” is something that would make you happy then go for it. Well good luck and I look forward to hearing more. Great post!

    • Thank you. I’m glad you enjoyed it.

      Yes, go with the flow has been my mantra for most of my life. I don’t know whether the project would make me happy but we have reached a compromise where I take on a consulting role and continue working from where I am as opposed to having to move to Delhi. It gives me a sense of stability and allows me to work at the same time.

      I am surprised to know that you would love to be a hermit- most people are so scared of being alone that they constantly search for some form of companionship. Good for you.

  3. Tell me about it. I relate so much to this. I love my life too right now. I might say I don’t and that I need a more eventful life, but in my heart, I really like it the way it is now. The problem is: I know it can’t last. I need to get my life going. I need to do things to make an effort into making my life the way I REALLY want it. Like, I want to be a writer. I want it to be my career. But at the same time; I have no idea how. Most of the time I really struggle knowing what to write about, how to write it, and if I do know how to write and what to write; it comes out like horse shit. I fear going into this world. People keep telling me I got what it takes, they’ve told me since I was 10, yet I am so afraid. I don’t know how to overcome this fear and why I even want to since my life right now is pretty damn easy. Why do we fear change so much? Because we know what we got, not what to expect.

    You should say yes to your project 😉 Good luck!

    • A known devil is better than an unknown angel. That is the problem with change.

      The thing is- its not so much about life being easy as it is about life being happy though the former probably contributes to the latter at some level. I did say yes to the project but Its happening on my terms (or so I think!). Ive already started working and its been good.

  4. And by the way; I LOVE my hermit life. If I have too many people to engage with, if I can’t be left alone to enjoy my own company for a GOOD amount of time, I get grumpy and depressed. I wish I knew why.

    • Me too.. I just find it easier to deal with myself as opposed to a million other people. In my case, I get lost somewhere among the crowd. OR I get bored. Or something annoys me. Or I just feel that I could be doing something better.

      I think it is very difficult to spend time with yourself- atleast for most people who constantly find ways to lose themselves in the crowd and become just another face. I don’t need people to justify or validate my existence. I am fine the way I am. 🙂

  5. I really liked this post. I have given my thoughts on being happy before so I won’t repeat myself but might write my own post on the subject soon.

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