15 comments on “The Dilemma

  1. I would say, that travel, and boy dont we love it, is something that you do always in your life; as part of your being itself, whether abroad or in India. I dont see travel as being a ‘project’ in competition with your other ‘project’. Let me put it this way- its not like you will travel for five years and then start a business and then your travel stops. Its not like doing a degree., one after another. Its like, I would say discovering new music or cooking or even something like eating healthy; you just keep at it always. I just dont think of travel as an ‘either or’ option. And my view, traveling is also a lot of fun when its connected organically to your work.

    I think that starting up a new business idea requires time, dedication and risk. If you have them, then invest in it. If you are not sure, then just dont do anything. The answer will certainly come to you if your stay still.

    • I understand what you mean but the idea was to take time off and do it for quite some time- to live in a place and absorb it and not just visit. I don’t want to be a tourist. I want to understand the culture. It is more about culture immersion than just travel. For example, I want to spend a year teaching English in Japan. So, I can’t do that if I go the business way. I have also thought about what exactly I am going to do while travelling and the idea is to figure it out as I go along. There is no plan involved- the plan is to have no plan and just go with the flow in every sense of the term. If it was just about taking short trips then I know where to go and what to do and how to do it. The idea is to turn it into a trip with no end in sight.

      I am not too worried about the business idea part of it . I emailed you with my 3 ideas and I am going with one or all of them depending how to make it work. The time, dedication and risk I have factored in. Besides, I am fortunate enough to have some fantastic guidance in the matter so I am sure I can make a success of it one way or the other. I have done my research in that respect and just need to make the necessary business plan(s) and start.

      You have given me much to think about and I am just wondering if I need to rethink the idea of travel in its entirety. Lots to think about. Also, glad to have you comment on something personal (As opposed to political) on my blog. πŸ™‚

  2. Thanks for the mention! πŸ˜‰

    You know what I think you should do, but I also agree with the first commentator here. I don’t think it’s a question whether you can do this or that. You can do both. You don’t have to travel for a long time. Use for instanse 6 months to travel, you can get around pretty much in 6 months. The longer you travel, the more expensive it gets. I think you can do both!

    • Hehe! About time I did, considering how much you have mentioned me on your blog and not to forget ‘Jade’. πŸ˜‰ BTW, I just realised something. In my first post, I had mentioned how I want friends on every continent and well, there is you in Norway. So, maybe, you don’t need to travel to make friends. You just need to connect in some way or the other. In our case, through blogging. Topic for a blog post, I say!

      I agree with your opinion and is something I have considered myself. I just don’t know if I really want to put a time to it. Also, ideas have a short incubation period. I may be left with nothing. But, yes, I am beginning to see the wisdom behind this way of thinking.

      Like I said, blogging gives me access to lots of interesting opinions and unique insights. From all over the world. I do find myself wondering if and what humourous spin Nick will give to this. πŸ˜€

  3. Ooops, just now saw your comment. I understand better now. Staying for that long can sure be a challenge in regards to your other plans/wishes/ideas, but like I told you before, I believe you’ll regret you didn’t travel more if you don’t do it. Living in the moment instead of living in the future. Because truthfully, you can never know what tomorrow brings and all possibilities might be gone by then. I know because it happened to me.

    Good luck! πŸ™‚

    • Oops, so did I!! lol! That is what I am worried about. I just feel that I am going to have regrets irrespective of what path I take. So, either, I redefine ‘travel’ or I just go for it and hope some other fantastic idea strikes me. I really have to make this decision soon so I know how to take this forward. Either get immersed in the start-up(s) or just figure out a way to make some money quickly (without breaking my promise to myself) and take off. Its quite a dilemma, eh? I think I just have to take the plunge and do something before the indecision kills me.

      In some ways, this is more difficult than a job. πŸ˜€

      • Interestingly enough, I had pretty much decided on the whole teach in Japan for a year gig (provided I get it, of course) and then I got the 3 ideas (one of which I shared with you) and things changed. Now, I am completely torn!

  4. I will shamefully admit that I have had many opportunities to travel and have taken advantage of none of them, so technically I’ve always chose the “Path One” type options in my life. BUT the fact that you have such a strong urge to travel probably negates any helpfulness that this advice might have.

    If you do choose to travel full-time for a while, I highly suggest you go all “Eat Pray Love” about it and memoir about your every slice of cheese pizza. Lol.

    • Thanks Nick. I know what you mean. Unfortunately I have also always chosen Path One and Path Two sounds pretty scary in some ways and also very exciting. The problem unfortunately is that they are both do damn exciting. I think things will eventually work out one way or the other.

      And lol, I will aim for exactly that. I am, however, hoping to eat more than just cheese pizza! πŸ˜€

  5. It really doesn’t have to be either-or. You need to be patient and give everything time. The things you really want in life do happen, some way or the other. And I speak from a more-or-less content place, at the moment, of course. And what doesn’t happen, wasn’t meant to be. For now, pick whatever seems to be more feasible/achievable. If you keep waiting for an epiphany, you might end up doing neither!

    Best of luck πŸ™‚


    • Hmm. Helpful advice this! Thanks. I find myself thinking this way as well (the whole wasn’t meant to bit) but then I feel that makes me relinquish too much control over my decisions and circumstances. Strangely, I am not comfortable with that. I think I just want and expect too much. 😦

      But, yes, the waiting for an epiphany deal is getting on my nerves as well. Which is why I HAVE to do something. I need to decide soon.

  6. I so understand that wish for an epiphany! I find myself in that same situation as well. I keep reminding myself I am where I need to be right now (Maybe too much Oprah!) Not knowing the specifics of plan A, I am flying a little blind. However I wonder if you were to take a 6 month ‘break’ and teach in Japan while fine tuning and gaining experience in that Plan A option. You had mentioned that you didn’t have a lot of work experience in this plan, maybe the teaching will allow you to learn and meet people who do have this experience? I am of the mindset that you should travel as much as you can. The work will always be there (even if someone else introduces your ideas). The ability to travel is much harder. It is never the right time. it is too expensive. etc. Remember there is no WRONG decision: each will present new and exciting opportunities. (I talk a good game don’t I?!)

    Add me to the USA friend list! Michigan is nicer in the spring and Fall unless you really want to experience COLD COLD COLD weather & snow (looses its luster trust me)

    • The Plan A option is essentially a few ideas I have to start a business online. Unfortunately, these are not businesses I can do alone and so would necessarily mean employing people etc. I also see myself stuck in them for a while and unable to follow other passions. After all, it will take a while just to monetise them and they have to keep evolving for them to be successful. Going down this path necessarily involves taking short vacations and being touristy. I am not sure that I want to be just a tourist. The teaching in Japan option is a 1 year commitment and I am applying for it. It pays well and will allow me to understand a different culture from a very intimate point of view while travelling around Japan and perfecting my Japanese conversational skills (I am currently teaching myself Japanese!). I don’t foresee savings coming out of it but I do foresee a wonderful experience. With respect to travel, I have always faced the issue of time and money but I am now beginning to think that the time will never be right and that I just have to make it happen. As for money, I just have to find ways and means of making that money. Fortunately, I have been blessed with intelligence (if I may say so myself) and am not worried on that front. I have different fears in relating to travelling alone etc. But yeah, I need to conquer that fear. I just wish I had someone to travel with me, at least initially.

      And you can add me to your list of friends from India! πŸ˜€ I am not too fond of the cold though I would love to play in the snow sometime! If my travelling takes me towards the US (which I hope it will), I am going to give you a holler!

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